Dating a closeted
I really know that I am falling for him, and most of the time he seems that way too. One tidbit of info that might be helpful is that he is not out and I am.
I'm fine with him not being out and would NEVER do anything to jeopardize that.
These moments are lubricated with alcohol and drugs to ease your nerves and thus your higher functions are dulled, leaving you susceptible to very poor choices (My condom broke. ) -- the decision to engage in a one-night-stand notwithstanding. And don't think that I don't know the pressures to remain in the closet.
Humans make very poor decisions once aroused because your brain pulls energy resources (blood, nutrition) from your neo-cortex and floods not only your penis with that blood but the parts of your brain that are attuned to finding a wet place to insert your penis into. I was reared a born-again, Baptist-cum-Pentecostal Christian.
Many LGBTQ folks are still struggling to figure out their sexuality and testing the waters to see if it’s safe to be open.
Whether someone’s coming-out process takes days or decades, it’s a season through which no one should be rushed.
One day things are going beautifully, and the next you’re being introduced as “the roommate” — uh oh.
I touched upon this conflict earlier in a post about the difficulty of LGBTQ Christian dating.Putting all of this stuff in your profile is really too much. You can talk about your status as in or out at another time and the person can respond how he responds.If you are young, you might find people will be a bit more tolerant than they would other wise people for you to be closeted.I even gave it a fancy name: The Khalaf Self-Disclosure Discrepancy Theorem.
Essentially, the more disparate you and your partner are in the stages of self-disclosure, the more stress it will impose upon your relationship.At the end of the day, it’s all about spending time and creating memories with the person you love.